Dating into a relationship
How exactly do you go from dating someone casually to having a serious relationship with them? What qualities made you want to get serious with your date? Being self-aware of how others perceive you is a huge advantage in dating and relationships. To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.” explaining how proper dating has been replaced with casual hook ups and ill-defined relationships. And when I say I’ve learnt this the hard way, I mean it.Online dating, and our ability to be in constant contact with everyone we know via text, email or social media make us unwilling to commit to one person, and more likely to want to hedge our bets. In an article I wrote earlier this year about modern dating, I used the example of a man I’d been sleeping with for over a year, who got cross when I referred to him as my boyfriend.When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.
There is no more valuable friend to a dating relationship than time. Impatience is a sure sign of relational immaturity that will lead to hurt unimaginable.Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.It is characterized by urgency, intensity, sexual desire, and or anxiety, in which there is an extreme absorption in another.The truth is, this feeling of urgency and intensity or strong attraction toward another person is not necessarily a reliable indicator of whether you are in love or should immediately dive into a serious dating relationship.
You may think no one has ever made you feel like this and you can’t help but be amazed at the chemistry, or electricity between you and this new love. But sadly those involved don’t take the time to get to know each other before jumping into something serious.