Friend starts dating ex best friend is dating another guy
I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.
We met up recently, and it turned out, like with most things, to be a matter of miscommunication. I thought it was understood that exes are off limits to best friends, or hell, even good friends. Here's the thing: I don't ever want to date my ex again.
And that created a whole shitshow of drama and insecurity for me. While I wouldn't mind seeing my ex go hook up and be happy with a stranger, there is an undeniable sting when it's with someone you know. Maybe if we didn't have the capacity to feel jealousy and insecurity, we could all just have a big happy orgy.
It didn't feel good worrying if he would trade in our friendship just for a forbidden make out with my best friend. And I don't think you should ever apologize or justify that sting.
Now you’re sad and lonely and totally not over him at all. You finally come to the conclusion that you’ll never move on or trust anyone again.
You talk to your best friend about it all the time. You’re so upset you don’t even want to leave your bedroom. (But don’t worry, you will.) Has one of your friends ever dated your ex?
Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up.